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What to Expect During Fertility Testing

Many people are apprehensive about what to expect when they have decided to under go fertility testing. Not to mention the anxiety couples go through before, during, and when the diagnosis is made from the testing. Through out all stages of fertility testing from beginning to end one or both partners may feel inadequate, isolated, alone, scared or even angry. All of these are reactions and feelings are normal. The best thing you and your partner can do is communicate on how each of you is feeling and show compassion, rather you agree or not. These are real feelings and they need to be dealt with gently. Remember, you both are in this together and studies have shown that 90% of all infertility can be corrected with a proper diagnosis. 

 Once you and your partner have decided to under go infertility testing, your doctor will decide what test(s) maybe appropriate for you, your partner or both. At this point you may feel as if you have lost control. Your life as you know it may appear as if it revolves around doing what they say and when. For some people and couples, this maybe a lot to handle. For one reason, time constraints! Let’s face it, in today’s society we are busier than ever and the stress and anxiety of stopping in the middle of the day for a procedure is not always convenient. 

The best way to cope with time constraints is to make a schedule. When you and your partner meet with your doctor at the first consultations, ask lots of questions. You may even want to purchase a separate planner for you and your partner just for this journey. Find a planner that you can not only write appointments down, but take notes with and write your feelings down! You would be amazed how therapeutic that can be. Ask him to give you a verbal map of where this is going? Ask him step by step what this will in tale and how much time and money should you allow for each step. This is what your first consultation is for. Don’t be intimidated or feel inadequate if you don’t understand what your doctor is saying, tell him. Remember, you are paying him. You did not attend medical school that is not your expertise. He or she will understand. 

There are two things that you and your partner need to remember, you love each other and this is not going to be easy. During this process it is important to develop good coping skills and develop them together. Don’t feel as if you have to do this yourself. Remember, it takes two to make a baby. 

Some such coping skills can include the following:
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 <li>Acknowledging that this is not going to be easy. (As mentioned above)</li>
 <li>Communicate- keep talking to your partner, your doctors, your friends and even a good infertility support group (As mentioned above)</li>
 <li>Stay supportive- the more you help your partner through the process and show compassion, the easier it will become for you as well.</li>
 <li>Avoid baby showers, birthday parties and social gatherings if you and your partner are not up to it. Don’t feel guilty.</li>
 <li>Read and gather as much information as you can. This will not only educate you, but it may also help you emotionally understand why you or your partner feel the way you do.</li>
 <li>Don’t be ashamed to admit that you need professional help. This is a new arena for you. By seeking the help that you need for you and your partner, this maybe the first step in solving your infertility issue. </li></ul>

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